Love and Moving On

Let’s dive into the topic of romantic love, shall we? I like to describe love as a bittersweet experience. It starts off as a ray of sunshine, radiating warmth and energy into our lives. But it’s funny how love can switch on and off like a faucet, and sometimes it can even feel like a grave mental disease. Love, to me, is a perfect oxymoron—a strange and phenomenal concept.

My perspective might seem a little unusual, shaped by the darker side of relationships. I’ve witnessed what people do in the name of love, and the fear of not being reciprocated, of pouring your energy into someone who may not hold onto it. That’s why I believe that love can happen without attachment and all those abnormal and bizarre behaviours associated with commitment and consistency. I mean, think about it—why should we go through all that pain and suffering just because someone doesn’t love us back? It’s a losing game. There’s no point in doing your part and then the other person decides to call it quits with no reason. At that point, you become a victim, as good as someone in endless therapy sessions battling depression.

Can you imagine being depressed because of someone who doesn’t even care about you anymore? It’s messed up! They’ve moved on and probably don’t even remember a single thing about you. It’s not right to suffer in the name of love. I believe it’s important to heal as quickly as possible and move on after a breakup. I’ve been a victim of such toxic situations myself, going through stupid and unexplainable circumstances that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. It’s just not fair to fall into depression because we loved blindly. We need to let go and move forward. It’s healthier that way!

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am a firm believer in love. I believe it exists, but it can only work between people who naturally sync. Love should never be forced or labelled just for the sake of it. It’s not about all those things we see on social media that we try to copy and paste into our lives. Love is natural, and when it’s natural, it’s incredibly hard to stop. So, here’s my takeaway: don’t lose yourself or sacrifice your well-being because of love. Love should make us happy, not feel like a never-ending dull day. Love should be cherished and experienced with keenness.

In the end, love is a complex journey, but it’s one worth taking. It’s about finding that special connection with someone who brings joy to our lives. And if we ever find ourselves in a situation where love turns sour, remember that it’s okay to let go and move on. After all, life is too short to be weighed down by the past. So, let’s embrace love with open hearts and keen minds, and remember to prioritize our own happiness along the way.

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